How to Stop Self-Sabotage Forever

Everybody says, “consistency is the key to weight loss” but nobody is spilling the tea on HOW to stay consistent when you're stuck in the cycle of self-sabotage??!! So, frankly… most of us still struggle, which sucks for everyone. BUT I found the secret to stopping self-sabotage!🤫 And I'm sharing it all in today's episode!

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Today's episode is taken from a live call inside of my signature program, The Bombshell Blueprint. If you want to know more about the blueprint or how once you get your little myths on it, you can finally stop sabotaging your progress and start losing weight, just head on over to kyliepax.com forward slash blueprint or hit the link in the show notes. But this is eating code number five in its entirety.

Eating code number five is act like the person you want to become. Let's look at it like this. Girls, please.

Your brain is a shopping mall. Your brain is like a shopping mall and you go shopping in there every single day. So now my question to you is what shops are you going to go shopping in today? Are you going to go shopping in the badass Bougie store? Are you going to go shopping in the self-respect store? Are you going to go shopping in the self-loathing and bullshit eating store? No thanks.

I don't go shopping in that shit hole. I've been in there before. The prices are really high.

The product that I walk out with is garbage. Why? Why? Why would anybody want to go shopping in there? It's complete bullshittery. So please, you are in your own mall every single day.

You don't get to decide whether you're going to go shopping every day. You are going shopping. But here's what I want you to understand.

The stock that you find in the stores of your own personal shopping mall in your mind, the stock that's in there gets delivered to you. So some of the stock you have bought in, but other stock that's in these stores was delivered to you. So mostly stock that's in stores like the self-loathing store, the stock that's in there probably didn't come from you.

(1:40 - 2:15)

The stock that you'll find in those stores probably came from parents or caregivers, maybe I'm just going to say my experience, elders in the church. It could have been relatives of some kind. It probably was school teachers, dickhead friends at high school, people who told you you are no good and you will never be any good and you're a piece of trash and the world would be better off if you just weren't here.

You didn't buy that stock in. They came and they bought the stock in. They put the stock in the storeroom at the back, but you took it into the store.

(2:17 - 5:40)

Hear me? Oh, please hear me when I say this. You're the one who bought that stock into the store. They didn't bring it in.

They delivered it to the storeroom, but you decided whether it was going to go on the shelves or not. So you then come wasting your hard earned energy and you're not even burning calories while you do it because it's just the way that stupid store works and you're filling the shelves with the trash and then you go shopping in that store every day. Meanwhile, you have got the self-respect store, the self-love store, the weight loss store, the no more emotional eating store, the I love myself store.

These stores are over here too. They're also in the shopping mall and they're beautiful. They're clean.

They're not dirty and filthy with cockroaches like the self-loathing store. These stores are beautiful. They're stunning.

They've got glittery lights and it's amazing and whatever your favorite colors are, that's how that store is decked out. It is beautiful. The decor is sublime.

It's iconic and you could go shopping in those stores every day, but you walk fucking right on by. Bye-bye. You don't want to go into those stores.

Why? Not sure. I don't think I belong in those stores. Looks a bit fancy for me.

You kidding me? That's the store you fucking built. You built that store. You belong in that store.

You own everything in that store. You just need to walk on in, honey. They're waiting for you.

The salespeople are in there and they're like watching you go past crying every day. Why won't she come in? We've got so much to give her and it's free. It's free, but you're just walking on past.

No, no, I don't belong in those stores. They're too fancy. They're not too fucking fancy for you.

It's your damn store. You bought the store. You built the store.

You put the stock in the store and now you won't go in there and get it. We're not rolling like that anymore. Your mind is a shopping mall.

I want you to choose every single day how you are going to rock up and what goods you're going to choose to shop to take home with you from your shopping mall. It's your choice because here's the kicker. You are coming home with shopping from that mall every day.

So you either get to decide what you bring home consciously and intentionally, or if you don't, you're going to come home with bullshit from the self-loathing store and the binging store and the I'm not good enough store because those people, they're like hawkers out the front. They're like throwing shit at you. You barely need to even walk past the store and they're like chucking their stock at you.

Like here, here, take this. Take this stupid thought. Take this thought about how pathetic you are.

Take this thought that you'll lose weight. Take this thought. I might as well just go eat everything because I'm always going to be fat and this will never work for me.

Take it, take it, take it. That's what they're doing. And you are catching it like you're winning prizes.

Oh, cool. Fresh shit. Fresh shit.

Oh, look what I got. And then you go home. Look at the bags.

Look what I got today. They're trashy bags. They're shitty.

They're not even recycled plastic. They're crap bags with holes in them and bullshit inside. But you're taking it home like you've won a fucking prize.

We're not doing that anymore. We're not doing that anymore. I don't care how hard they throw it at you.

I don't care how much you think it's free and therefore it's great. That's bullshit. Free shit is usually not good shit.

Okay. You are now going into a self-respect store. You're going into the self-love store and you're going to have to choose to walk in there.

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And every single time you walk into that store, you're going to feel better about yourself and you're going to believe every single time you're going to believe a little bit more that you belong in that place. Yeah, I do belong in here. Look, these people are nice to me when I walk in.

(5:54 - 6:35)

And look, look at the other people shopping in here. Who else is shopping? Listen, there's one way to determine. And a lot of us do this when we go traveling.

A lot of people would say, eat where the locals eat because you know the food is good. So I want you to think about who else is in the self-love store? What other kind of people are shopping in the shopping mall of your mind? Because there's other people in there too. This is like your own little universe up in there.

Who else is shopping in the self-love and self-respect store? Who else is shopping in the savvy food decision store? Who else is shopping in the I'm committed to myself store? I guarantee you look around at the other patrons in there. They're beautiful, slender. They look so healthy.

(6:35 - 8:15)

Their skin is glowing. They look confident. They look amazing.

They're dressed in ways that you're like, I would love to be like that. That's them. That's the other patrons in the store because that's the type of people that belong in there.

But now turn around, look across the street into the self-loathing and zero self-respect store. Look across into the excuses store. What kind of people are in there? Are they bad asses or are they fucking derelicts? They are trashy ass people, probably wearing brown paper bags because they're broke ass and they can't afford nothing because they don't have any self-beliefs, right? Hear me when I say this.

Hear me when I say this. And if this resonates with you, please feel free to let me know. Your mind is a shopping mall and you're in there all day long, every single day.

But the beauty of it is you have full control over what shopping bags you come home with, what stores you go into and which ones you just walk right on by. I'm not going into that trash hole. Forget that.

That's bullshit, that place. I've been in there before. The prices are high.

What I come out with is complete garbage. They never deliver on their promises. They're liars, cheats, and thieves.

I'm going to go over there. I see that place across the street, self-love, self-respect store. Oh, wonder what they got in there for me today.

I can't wait to go get in there today and see what they got. And then you go in there and you see like people with amazing exercise equipment that you would like to try, actually shit that you would like to try. You're like, that looks fun.

Oh my God, that actually looks kind of fun. What is that? And you ask the other beautiful women, how do you do that? Oh girl, they love you. They're friends with you.

Oh, this is so easy. This is fun. Look what it did for me.

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I'll take it. I'll take that. I'll take that with my self-respect and self-love.

Bring it on home with me. You have the choice. And this is how we are now going to roll every day.

Thank you so much for tuning in. Remember to shimmy your butt over to KyliePax.com and join me inside of the Blueprint so you can stop emotional eating and start losing your way now. You'll also find helpful notes and resources inside my past podcast that will help you lose your weight without losing your sanity.

I will see you next week.