Stop Waiting for ‘New Year New Me’ and Start Becoming Her NOW

You’ve buried 365 days of excuses. You said “Tomorrow I’ll start”, “When things calm down”, “When I’m not so busy”. But here’s the truth: you’ve lost 365 opportunities. That ends right now. In this powerful episode, you’ll discover how to draw a line in the sand, stop the habitual lies, and start acting like the woman you KNOW you can be.

This isn’t about waiting for New Year’s. It’s about getting months ahead of the crowd. You’ll learn the core four steps you need to completely transform your life and become unrecognisable in just 90 days, plus how to stop emotional eating, build consistency in weight loss, and follow through with self-accountability like the 1 % woman you’re becoming.

If you’re a woman over 40, done with binge-eating recovery, sick of dieting, and ready to finally follow through… this episode is your moment.
Hit play and let’s lock in 🔒

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Transcript

365 days. That's how long you've been promising yourself to do better. Tomorrow I'll start, when it's easier, when I'm not so busy, when things calm down a bit.

But the truth, girl, you just lost 365 opportunities. I mean, think about what your life could have been like if you'd only taken advantage of just half of those. If you had just applied yourself a little bit.

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I can tell you right now, you would not be sitting here like a sad sack telling yourself that the new year's just around the corner and this time it's going to be different. Girl, if you didn't do it this year, the fuck makes you think you're going to do it next year? What is up you gorgeous, fabulous creatures and welcome to another week inside of the Losing It podcast. You're here with Kylie Pax, Australia's emotional eating coach.

I am so grateful and thankful to have you all here. I know we've got a lot of new listeners that are tuning in each week and I am sending you all the magical love and Hershey's kisses. Girl, I'm only going to send you calorie free ones though, because I'm not a total cow.

So if you're loving what you're hearing and you want to hear more, please hit that subscribe button or send this episode to a bestie who you know is totally conflicted and messed up with their relationship with food as well, so that we can all support each other and get into our best vibes for the new year. Get into our best shape ever, our best mindset ever. The damn point, look, all I just want to say, we just want to be skinny.

Like we just call it what it is. We want to be what we call in my day, skinny, which really these days is like fit and fabulous. But in my days, we called it skinny.

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It all means the same thing. So today we are talking about how to lock in before the end of this year so that you're not clinking glasses with losers on New Year's Eve. You are actually celebrating that you are already months ahead of the pack.

So I want to start today by breaking down what you've got to work with so far. Right now, girl, you've got 365 excuses and probably years of evidence that you are a woman who never follows through. Well, girl, that changes right now.

This is your moment to draw a line in the sand and tell yourself, no, not me. That's not who I am. No more am I doing this.

I want to make this really, really clear so that you can understand the consequences of your bullshit and pathetic lies. And they are lies, like let's be really real about it, because you can do better and you know you can do better, but you're not. So think about it like this.

Right now, your future self is in the distance and she's fit and she's fabulous and she is cheering you on. But understand, she can only exist for as long as you are prepared to work towards her, as long as you are breathing life into her. And how do you do that? With your actions, your choices, every tiny decision that you make dictates whether she gets clearer and more vibrant and moves closer towards you or whether she becomes more and more transparent and eventually she becomes nothing more than like an apparition that just fades into the distance until she literally doesn't exist anymore.

She can't wait for you forever. She cannot wait for you to sit around and finish your midlife crisis so that you can finally decide that you do deserve better. She needs you to act now whether you are sure or not, whether you're scared or not, whether you're even fully believing that she's there or not.

Let me tell you this little theory that I have. I believe there are three types of women in this world. There are those who succeed, there are those who fail and then there is the saddest category of all, which are the ones who are too afraid to even try.

My question to you today is which one are you going to be? I remember many, many years ago, I got a speaking gig with Optus, the telecommunication company, and I was going to have to fly to Sydney and I had to give this talk and presentation to all the management at Optus and I was shitting myself. I had never done anything like that before. I was super scared.

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That was when I bought my very first little laptop. I got the MacBook Air thing. I don't know what it is, the little pink one.

I was so, so terrified. I thought, how can I get through this? And I was talking to a friend and explaining what I had to do and he said only two words to me that changed my entire life. I remember them to this day.

We were having coffee, we were sitting outside at this cute little cafe and there were sort of vine leaves all above and it was such a perfect sunny little afternoon. And I'm telling him about my sheer terror and how I'm nearly going to pee my pants because I've got to do this talk in front of people. And he looked me dead in the eyes across the table and he said to me, Kylie, back yourself.

Those two words changed my life. The risk isn't in whether you succeed or fail. The risk is in that you could very well lose the opportunity.

So stop asking, oh, what if it doesn't work? I'm so scared things never work out for me. What if I fail? Start asking what is the cost if I don't try? You need to flip that coin, sis, because right now you're looking at the terror and the horror of what if I do it again and it doesn't work. But the bigger question is what if you don't do it again and it could have worked? That's what you should be most afraid of because honey, what you don't change, you choose.

And 365 days ago, you promised yourself things would be different. 365 days ago, you promised yourself you would stop emotional eating. Didn't do it.

I'm going to change careers. I'm going to make more money. Didn't do it.

I'm going to start exercising. I want to take my health real serious. Didn't do it.

You are just lying to yourself over and over and over again. And then you blame everyone and everything else around you for your lack of follow through. Oh yeah, well, you know, things were really hard this year.

Things are always hard. You know what's harder? Knowing that you're in the exact same place that you were last year with no real strategy or plan for change. That hurts.

That finger that you point outwards and blame everybody else for your lack of self-control. Girl, you need to turn that finger around and point it at yourself because babe, it's you. It's you that's staying up late and binge watching shows long after you know you should be in bed.

It's you who's drinking every night and then wondering why you feel so shitty in the morning. It's you who's hitting snooze. It's you who's ordering Uber every night.

It is you. And I don't say this to make you feel like shit. I say it because this is the best news you have ever heard.

It was never your outer circumstances that were holding you back. It wasn't your perfectionistic nature. It was you.

Which means if you were the one not doing it, then sis, you can now be the one doing it. The women who win at life strike with intensity and frequency, not perfection. They strike with consistency.

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So if this year wasn't great for you, then this is your opportunity to create something that you can truly be proud of. Please do not sit around waiting for the new year, new me crowd to appear before you take action. By the time that happens, it is already too late.

And why? Because, and trust me, I've learned this the hard way, there can be no new you then, unless you put in the hard yards to create her now. You've got 365 days, babe. Start plotting them out now.

Remember, it's not pressure that makes the diamond. It's the cut. So I'm asking you, what do you need to cut off from your life in order to succeed? What are the toxic relationships, friendships, habits? Because, you know, we all have them.

Cut them off now. They are parasites that are bleeding you dry. I will tell you right now, everybody is jealous of what you've got, but nobody is jealous of how you got it.

So you've got to start putting in the work. And there are only four things that you need in order to set up a strategy that can help you succeed for the new year. Firstly, you're going to need a system that works.

And by works, I mean it builds the 1% version of you on autopilot. This is what we do inside of the bombshell blueprint. This is what I do when I'm working with one-on-one clients.

It's mindset, it's systems, it's strategy. You've got to have that shit down on paper. And yeah, I mean, old school paper.

Okay. For my more modern girls, yes, you can use the app and you can totally use the notes on your phone, but you need a system that works and makes your transformation easy and automatic. The second thing that you need is a planner and journal.

Now you don't have to use mine. We do have the bombshell planner and journal that is available inside of the app. Again, you need this to rewrite your self-sabotaging patterns and build self-trust with yourself.

Right now, you've got no self-trust, none. How do I know this? Because you're the woman who goes, don't bring chocolate in the house. I can't control myself around chocolate.

No, of course you can't, because you've broken your word to yourself so many times that it's embarrassing that you would even think that you could control yourself right now. You need to rebuild your mindset strength. The third thing that you need is to understand your nutrition only on the most basic level, or you can just use my eating codes.

Please, please. I've broken them down into four basic eating codes that are so simple a child can do them. As you know, the first eating code is you eat when you're hungry.

You don't eat when you're not. The second code is that when you do eat, you stop eating at 80% full. All right, that's the secret weight loss code.

You want to lose weight, sis, between now and the close of the year, stop eating at 80% full. The third eating code is to follow your plan and not your mood. We do not break our word to ourselves.

No, we don't. We make the plan each morning, and then we follow our plan, not our mood, regardless of how we feel. And then the fourth eating code, which is the magical code again, act like the person that you want to become.

This is what I mean when I talk about moving closer and closer to your future self. You have to start acting like she would act now, because then the fourth thing that you need is accountability. Now, whether you want to hook up with a coach or a friend who actually gives a fuck about your results, but think hype girl meets accountability.

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That's what you're looking for. That's what I give for my clients. That's what it's all about.

I will be your biggest cheerleader. And also, I don't take your bullshit. I don't care about your excuses.

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I'm the one that's sending you the voice notes and the DMs and weekly check-ins. I'm giving you that loving push or, you know, maybe we just need a kick up the booty, but it's the thing that you need. That's what you need to be able to get.

So make that investment, because it is time to let go of the excuses. They don't sound good to anybody but you. How embarrassing.

And remember what I said earlier, what you don't change, you choose. So right now, if you hate your body, I mean, I don't want to be the one to break it to you, but you chose it. If you don't like your job, you chose it.

The bills that are piling up and your relationship that sucks, you chose it. And I'm not saying we should all run out there and quit our jobs and leave your partners. I'm just saying that the reason you're listening to this podcast today is because you know inside that you're not living up to your true potential.

And that is what's causing the real pain. It's not your weight. It's not your boss.

It's not even your shitty relationship with food. It's the fact that you know you could do better and you're choosing not to. So let this be your year for change.

When I work with clients, it only takes 90 days for them to become completely unrecognizable. Because I'm going to be really, really honest with you always. It is not your fault that you're in emotional eating hell, but it is your fault if you stay there.

The door is open and an entire world of possibility is waiting for you. The only question left is what are you going to choose? Thank you so much for joining today for another episode. As always, please remember the only person who has the power to change your life is you.

When you step up and realize that the only person that was holding you back was you, let go of your own BS. Those excuses are not pretty, honey. It's time to set them free.

Let them go off to greener pastures. When you finally step up and do that, that's when you've got what it takes. I'm sending you tremendous amounts of love.

I can't wait to see you again all next week. And until then, gorgeous ones, bye for now. Thank you so much for tuning in.

Remember to shimmy your butt over to KyliePax.com and join me inside of the bombshell blueprint so you can stop emotional eating and start losing your way now. You'll also find helpful notes and resources inside my past podcasts that will help you lose your way without losing your sanity. I will see you next week.