Create The Ultimate Plot Twist Before The End of 2025

If your Holiday mantra is “I’ll start in January” but you never follow through, this episode is your wake-up call. In this savage, no-BS podcast, I'm breaking down why emotional eating, procrastination, and self-betrayal are keeping women stuck in the same body and the same life year after year. You’ll learn why personal accountability is the key to weight loss after 40, how excuses silently destroy self-trust, and why motivation will never save you. This episode is ONLY for women who are ready to stop emotional eating, take responsibility for their choices, and finally become the disciplined, confident woman they know they’re capable of being.

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Okay, I'm going to say this real clear because somebody needs to hear it without the sugar coating. If anything in your life right now is not how you want it to be, honey, that is on you. It's not your age.

It's not your hormones, your kids, your past. It is you. And I know that this might sting a little, but I promise you I'm not a total cow.

This just couldn't be the episode that changes everything for you. What is up, you gorgeous, fabulous creatures? And welcome to another episode of the Losing It podcast. You are here with Kylie Pax, Australia's emotional eating coach.

And I'm going to give you a little warning before we dive in today. This is not going to be the episode where you sit down with your cup of coffee and feel inspired and then trundle off and do nothing. No, this is more like a reckoning.

I'm giving you today a rock solid wake up call. But before we dive into that, if this podcast has ever slapped you awake, helped you think a little differently, or just made you feel a little less alone in the world of emotional eating drama, then please make sure you hit that subscribe button and be the first to snatch an episode or share this on your stories. And remember to tag me because that is the first step in getting the life that you came here for.

Now, if I know you, and I do, because I promise you, I feel like we were separated at birth. If you're listening to me on this podcast, you and I are basically one. And right now, you are telling yourself that you have got time.

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There is no point in starting anything new now. There's no point in even trying really, because January is just around the corner. So you're stuck in your little face and you're telling yourself that you're going to deal with it on the 1st of January.

You're promising yourself that next year is going to be different. But babe, it's so embarrassing. It's not going to be easier next January.

It's not going to be any easier than it is right now. If now feels difficult, how much more difficult do you think it's going to be when January 1st arrives and you're 55 kilos heavier and disappointed in yourself and pissed off with yourself? Because before I can even start sharing with you how to create the ultimate plot twist before the end of this year, you have to accept one brutal realisation. And that is, girl, you've been the problem the whole time.

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Now, before you run off looking for a sharp object, I promise you that isn't bad news, because if you were the problem, that means you are also the solution. Now, there's a super fine line between being frustrated with your weight and realising that the actual frustration is with yourself. So I'm going to show you how to weaponise your habits today so that you can arrive in 2026 completely freaking unrecognisable.

You thought that you were angry about the food and why can't I control myself around the food and the food is too delicious. It was none of that. It was never any of that.

The real reason you were feeling that frustration with yourself this year is because you kept breaking promises to yourself. So now you don't even trust yourself anymore. And that is the real weight you're carrying.

It's not the extra 20, 30, 45 kilos. No, no. That's just an accessory.

The real weight is the weight of mistrust. And those women that won this year, the women that actually hit their targets, you know me. I worked my ass off this year.

I lost 16 kilos. I'm not finished yet. Next year, I'm already planning for the ultimate plot twist.

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It's my year to get toned and fabulous and savvy, even more savvy, even more. But these women that really won the race this year, it's not that they're more talented. They just took responsibility for everything in their life, including their circumstances.

So think about this, all those excuses that you rolled out this year, they didn't make you feel better, did they? How much better do you feel right now? All they did was delay the moment that you have to face yourself. One of the main points that I really want to drive home today is the point of the time lie. You think you've got all the time in the world and that is the most diabolical lie of the devil that you have ever heard.

You don't know. You don't know how much time you've got. You think you're stuck with your weight loss, but you're not stuck.

We are always moving. And a year, five years, 10 years from now, it's coming. Whether you like it or not, and you're either going to wake up proud or you're going to wake up really, really, really pissed with yourself that you wasted more time.

You did it again. The comfort that you keep falling into today, oh, it's just one more time, only a little bit. I'll start again in the new year.

That is the exact BS that is stealing your future and your potential and your entire life from you. Listen, nobody ruins their life with one big decision. They destroy it by quietly drifting off course.

So I want you to think about it this way. For those of you that have already put on the brakes and now you're in full party mode and you're telling yourself that you're going to start again in January, first of all, I would wash that right out. Like, you know, when you were little and your mom used to say, if you said a swear word, she would be like, I'm going to wash your mouth out with soap.

Well, that's what you better wash your own mouth out with soap. If you think something different is going to be happening in January and your mindset is magically going to change, wrong. Rather than putting all your effort into trying to lose weight in January, why don't you start now putting that effort into trying to be your happiest, hottest, healthiest self, and you will lose weight by January.

The self-judgment that you currently feel every time you walk up to a mirror, whether that's in your own bathroom, in public toilets, when you walk past a shopping mall, it's not always toxic. It's actually how mentally healthy adults course correct. You judge your current actions against potential outcomes.

And if the outcome isn't what you want, then a healthy adult understands that behavior needs to change. So there's nothing wrong with taking a little reality check. Look around, look at your house, look at your body, look at your circumstances, look at your partner, job, everything.

Because the hard truth that we all need to face is you are exactly where you deserve to be. And if that offends you, it's like a whole sorry, not sorry situation. It's probably because you know that you can do better, but right now you're choosing not to.

So this morning I was doing my client check-ins as I do every single day. We talk, we check in, I hold them accountable, we keep progressing. And I mentioned to one of them that almost 50% of consumer spending at this time of year, most especially, is impulse spending.

So now my question to you is how much of your food and life choices are well calculated and well thought out and structured, and how many of them are impulse decisions? Your inner narrative is always going to fit your current identity. And that is exactly why willpower will always be unreliable and motivation is just an emotional feeling that comes and goes. You can never progress beyond your own self-concept.

So if you see yourself as a little fatty and this is your time of year for running around and partying, then you're going to behave that way. If you see yourself as a woman of discipline and structure and she's going for her goals and nothing will stand in her way, then you're going to behave that way. And why? Because you're an on autopilot? No, because your inner narrative will instruct you to do so.

This is why emotional eaters cannot rely on their feelings to run their life. You need structure, you need standards and you need a system that removes the decision-making process. One of the things I realized this year very, very clearly is that the women who get what they want from life operate from habits and structure, completely non-negotiable.

The women who don't operate from their feelings. Now, you know I spent the first three months of this year stuffing my little face like a piggy, gained eight kilos. I then did subsequently now, as I mentioned previously, I lost 16 and that's fantastic.

But I will be always super honest and tell you that first three months of the year was completely feeling driven. If I felt like chocolate KitKats for breakfast, then that's what I ate, an entire block if that's what I wanted to do. But as soon as I decided to flip that switch and change the narrative, it doesn't mean it suddenly got easy.

I was now in the most discomfort I'd ever been in. I still wanted chocolate for breakfast, but I decided no, that's not who I am and that's not how I operate. Do you think that was comfortable? That was extremely uncomfortable.

But this is exactly why I do what I do and I'm so passionate about the work that I do. Because the eating codes that I use to lose 16 kilos this year, no, no, they're not rules. They are an operating system.

They made for me the right choice really easy. In fact, well, really easy. They made it easier to make the right choice than it would be to make the wrong one.

They force alignment between the identity that you want and the action that you know needs to be taken. And just FYI, if you haven't got my free eating codes videos yet, then just head on over to KyliePax.com forward slash free course. I forget my own URL.

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KyliePax.com forward slash free course. That's where you can nab them for free and get started before January because everything comes at a price. Your comfort is going to cost you your future self.

And I'm just not here for that. If you're in my world, any of my clients will tell you there is no way that is going down. Because if you know that you can do better, but you choose not to, that is not neutral.

That's actually a betrayal of your future self. That life that you want, it's not going to hunt you down. In fact, you have to hunt it down.

It can't come to you if you are not chasing it relentlessly. It was never the other way around. And that is the only thing that is holding you back right now.

It is your habits and your thoughts about those habits. That's what's keeping you stuck. Your habit brain's job is not to rationalize and lift you up to your highest and hottest self.

No, it's job is to remember what you did yesterday and repeat that shit ad nauseam. That is why emotional eating feels so hard to break. It's not that it is hard to break, but it feels hard to break because it is now a pattern in your life.

It's super and crazy familiar. Your brain couldn't give a shit if it's a good or bad decision. It only cares that it's familiar.

And this is why you don't need more information. You need someone in your life who won't tolerate your bullshit. Somebody who's going to challenge your excuses.

Hold the standard that you know you're capable of achieving, but right now you're just not able to get there on your own. Maybe you just don't feel like it. Maybe you've got the excuses running.

Maybe you're time poor. I promise you that is actually not a legitimate excuse. There is always a way to make it happen.

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But when you've got someone who's walking beside you until you hit that finish line, there is nothing that can stop you. Listen, I will never be the coach who just pats you on the head, soothes you and tells you, it's okay, I understand. Yes, you're going through a very hard time.

I am the coach who gets you some damn results. So if this episode has made you a little uncomfortable, that is a good thing because discomfort is the awareness you need to wake the freak up. Girl, you can turn this off and just forget about it and go back to doing what you've always done.

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And if you do that, nothing will change. Or you can decide that this is the year your entire story changes. Not next year.

Now. Starting now. Decide that you're going to stop trying to do everything alone.

You're going to stop negotiating with yourself. You're going to stop lowering the bar to match your shitty, shitty behavior. And if you want to finish this year feeling strong and in control and like you've finally got a plan that you can implement to become proud of who you want to be, then, sis, it's time for you to link arms with someone who can actually get you to the finish line.

Because I'm telling you, the program is there. The evidence is there. The transformations are there.

The standards are there. And the structure is there. The only question left is whether you're ready to stop talking and yapping about the things you're going to do and actually start doing them.

Because as you know, I always like to say, you either do the thing now or just admit that you came here to live a life of complete bullshit. There is no in-between. Thank you so much for joining me here today.

Remember, as always, if you're loving what you're hearing and you want to hear more, please go ahead, hit that subscribe button. Make sure you're the first to know when a new episode drops. And if you're ready to step into that new year with a fresh mindset, fresh body, fresh set of structure to follow each and every day so that it's just never a matter of guesswork for you again, then I am currently taking on new one-on-one clients.

If this is something that you feel passionate about and you are so done with the BS excuses and living a life that is half of what you know you're capable of living, then message me over on Insta. Just message me unrecognizable or join us inside of the blueprint and start your 90-day transformation now. I'm sending you tremendous amounts of love.

I cannot wait to see you again next week. Until then, gorgeous ones, bye for now. Thank you so much for tuning in.

Remember to shimmy your butt over to KyliePax.com and join me inside of the bombshell blueprint so you can stop emotional eating and start losing your way now. You'll also find helpful notes and resources inside my past podcast that will help you lose your weight without losing your sanity. I will see you next week.